♡ We Should All Be Feminists ♡
I fell in love with this book from the first sight, I was impressed with its title "We Should All Be Feminist" and I was aspired to grasp the right meaning of the word "Feminism", to be honest I had a humble idea while reading this book which was I can easily write a similar book, but of course in arabic Lol!.. because it is not profound or bringing something new except ordinary facts might happened to the majority of the women around the world.
Chimamanda is an African writer, she poured out her heart among those real words, she conveyed her honest experience about the gender issue. According to the writer, the word feminist is heavy with unexpected baggages such as: unhappy, dirty, a man hater, ugly, unsophisticated.....
Racism against female is a product of society, it ought to admit about the existence of the gender problem then start thinking of finding solutions and in order to overcome those old fashion sterotypes and unfair dogmas of the society we have to start raising our children correctly.
The book is beautifully written, simple, easy read and perfectly real, I felt like I was reading about my own society without exaggerating and drama. I liked her intelligence combined with her sense of responsibility to spread the awareness to save Nigerian women from the injustice and she aimed to build up a fairer world for both men and women.
I have to point out that the real archenemy for the woman is the woman herself; the mother who raises her daughter to be just a chores maker and forces her to serve her brothers like preparing food instead of teaching them those useful skills because cooking is not related with any specific gender ; the woman who lets her husband humiliate her just because he is a man ; the silly young girl whom her biggest aspires is "hunting" a man and who makes herself be an "easy prey" and who dresses up to catch the men' s eyes only.......
As women we contribute indirectly to increase the anti feminism or the inequality against women, so we have the choice to be feminists .
Chimamanda is an African writer, she poured out her heart among those real words, she conveyed her honest experience about the gender issue. According to the writer, the word feminist is heavy with unexpected baggages such as: unhappy, dirty, a man hater, ugly, unsophisticated.....
Racism against female is a product of society, it ought to admit about the existence of the gender problem then start thinking of finding solutions and in order to overcome those old fashion sterotypes and unfair dogmas of the society we have to start raising our children correctly.
The book is beautifully written, simple, easy read and perfectly real, I felt like I was reading about my own society without exaggerating and drama. I liked her intelligence combined with her sense of responsibility to spread the awareness to save Nigerian women from the injustice and she aimed to build up a fairer world for both men and women.
I have to point out that the real archenemy for the woman is the woman herself; the mother who raises her daughter to be just a chores maker and forces her to serve her brothers like preparing food instead of teaching them those useful skills because cooking is not related with any specific gender ; the woman who lets her husband humiliate her just because he is a man ; the silly young girl whom her biggest aspires is "hunting" a man and who makes herself be an "easy prey" and who dresses up to catch the men' s eyes only.......
As women we contribute indirectly to increase the anti feminism or the inequality against women, so we have the choice to be feminists .
"We spend too much time teaching girls to worry about what boys think of them. But the reverse is not the case. We don’t teach boys to care about being likable. We spend too much time telling girls that they cannot be angry or aggressive or tough, which is bad enough, but then we turn around and either praise or excuse men for the same reasons. All over the world, there are so many magazine articles and books telling women what to do, how to be and not to be, in order to attract or please men. There are far fewer guides for men about pleasing women."
“Culture does not make people. People make culture. If it is true that the full humanity of women is not our culture, then we can and must make it our culture.”
“I am angry. We should all be angry. Anger has a long history of bringing about positive change.”
“And then we do a much greater disservice to girls, because we raise them to cater to the fragile egos of males. We teach girls to shrink themselves, to make themselves smaller. We say to girls: You can have ambition, but not too much. You should aim to be successful but not too successful, otherwise you will threaten the man. If you are the breadwinner in your relationship with a man, pretend that you are not, especially in public, otherwise you will emasculate him.”
“If we do something over and over, it becomes normal. If we see the same thing over and over, it becomes normal.”
“A Nigerian acquaintance once asked me if I was worried that men would be intimidated by me. I was not worried at all—it had not even occurred to me to be worried, because a man who will be intimidated by me is exactly the kind of man I would have no interest in.”
“Gender matters everywhere in the world. And I would like today to ask that we begin to dream about and plan for a different world. A fairer world. A world of happier men and happier women who are truer to themselves. And this is how to start: We must raise our daughters differently. We must also raise our sons differently.”